The Family Lives charity aims to offer all parents somewhere to turn before they reach crisis point. Crisis support, provided for over 40 years through their helpline, has always been at the heart of what they do.

Family Lives also have an excellent website to help parents with the ups and downs of family life, including this infographic: https://www.familylives.org.uk/advice/your-family/wellbeing/building-resilience-in-children-and-teens/

The Family Lives parents' helpline is available Monday to Friday, 1.30 - 9pm on 0808 800 2222.

The website can be found here: https://www.familylives.org.uk/

The things I wish my parents had known…about online sexual harassment (Children's Commissioner)

The Children's Commissioner, Dame Rachel de Souza DBE, has recently published a guidance document for parents helping to support them to understand online sexual harassment. It is a sensitive topic, and not one all parents feel comfortable discussing with their children.

The commissioner's team brought together a group of 16 - 21 year olds and asked them talk about what they think parents should know, and what they should say to their children when talking about sexualised bullying and the pressures of growing up online. 

Key advice from the young adults in the focus groups included: 

• Start conversations early, before your child gets a phone or social media account. Keep the conversation going over time, adapting to your child. 
• Young people want their parents to learn about new technology and trends, including risky behaviours and dangerous spaces online. 
• Create a safe and trusting home environment. Young people told us the home environment is key, they want to share things with their parents but don’t always feel able. 

The report and summary 'The things I wish my parents had known…' can be downloaded here: https://www.childrenscommissioner.gov.uk/report/talking-to-your-child-about-online-sexual-harassment-a-guide-for-parents/

The legal 'right to be forgotten' has been around since 2014 but recently Google have extended this. Now, any person under the age of 18 (or their parents/guardians) can fill in a form and request that one or more images are removed from Google search results.

This is good news, there will be many reasons why a young person might want an image to be removed from Google search results, e.g. embarrassing photos from when they were younger, perhaps uploaded by a parent. The removal is from search results within the UK, not the rest of the world. For example, if someone has their image removed and someone tries to search on google.co.uk, they won't be able to find it. But if someone searches on google.com, the image will still be there. 

Let's Talk

Let’s Talk is a creative project that involves using the arts to develop innovative services for families affected by domestic violence. Let's Talk have some good resources to encourage children to talk about their experiences and feelings, including a book of creative ideas.

Website: http://letstalkproject.co.uk/?page_id=10

 

Domestic Abuse, Recovering Together (DART™)(NSPCC)

 

In the NSPCC's 'Domestic Abuse, Recovering Together (DART™)' groups, children and mothers can talk to each other about domestic abuse, learn to communicate and rebuild their relationship.

The service, which has been recognised by the Home Office, also provides children and mothers with an opportunity to meet others who have lived through similar experiences.

For further information: https://learning.nspcc.org.uk/services-children-families/dart

 

Refuge

 

Refuge provides specialist support to women, children and some men escaping domestic violence and other forms of violence.

Support for children

https://www.refuge.org.uk/get-help-now/children/

 

National Domestic Abuse Helpline

 

Freephone 24-Hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0808 2000 247

Website: www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk  (access live chat Monday - Friday, 3pm -

10pm)

 

Hideout (Women's Aid)

 

A web resource for children themselves. Women’s Aid have created this space to

help children understand domestic abuse and how to take positive action.

Website: https://thehideout.org.uk/children/home/

 

Freedom Programme

 

Freedom Programme is a domestic violence programme which was created by Pat Craven and evolved from her work with perpetrators of domestic violence. The programme provides information, not therapy.

Website: https://www.freedomprogramme.co.uk/

 

Bright Sky App

 

Bright Sky is a mobile app and website for anyone experiencing domestic abuse, or who is worried about someone else. The app can be downloaded for free via the app stores.

Launched in partnership with Vodafone, the app includes questionnaires to assess the safety of a relationship, and a section on dispelling myths around domestic and sexual abuse.

The website is focused on how to spot the signs of domestic abuse, advice on how to support someone you have concerns for, and ways to find help.

The app is available in 5 languages: English, Urdu, Punjabi, Polish and Welsh.

Download for android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.newtonmobile.hestia&hl=en_GB&gl=US

Download for iOs: https://apps.apple.com/gb/app/bright-sky/id1105880511

 

Protective Behaviours (Safety Net)

 

Protective Behaviours is a safety awareness and resilience building programme

which helps children and adults to recognise any situation where they feel worried or

unsafe, such as feeling stressed, bullied or threatened; and explores practical ways

to keep safe.

https://www.safety-net.org.uk/protective-behaviours/

There is clear evidence that nationally and locally the frequency of incidences of domestic abuse have increased during periods of lockdown. If you or someone you know is suffering from domestic abuse then the following resources will be of use:

• Merseyside Police provide a range of local and national helplines, including a vital resource for adults ‘#It’s abuse’. 
• The Bright Sky app is an excellent resource for victims of domestic abuse. 
• The Hideout resources provide support for children who have witnessed or suffered from domestic abuse

Members of the Safeguarding Team are in school every day during lockdown and can be contacted in the usual way, with the safegaurding@stjulies.org.uk email address being the best way to make contact out of hours. 

Kooth is a free, online self-referral counselling service for young people that has had some really positive feedback. The guide for adults, available here, gives more information about the kinds of services that young people can access and explains about how the system works.

With TikTok surging in popularity, including children deliberately increasing their followers to 1,000 so that they can go live, it's good to see TikTok making more controls available for parents. The features, which are available via Family Pairing, include the ability to prevent the child searching and preventing strangers from seeing the childs' post.

THIS link explains the new and the older features.

Network Rail have contacted all schools in relation to concerns about a very high level of trespassing on the tracks by young people in the local area.

In partnership with Learn Live, Network Rail are working to help raise awareness to students across the UK educating them about the dangers of the train tracks through interactive digital delivery.

Please click on the link below to view a short safety video: 

Age 7- 11 

https://learnliveuk.com/network-rail-primary-school-safety-talk/

Age 11-16 

https://learnliveuk.com/network-rail-secondary-school-safety-talk/   

Age 17 plus

https://learnliveuk.com/network-rail-college-safety-talk-lnw/

You may wish to view the clips first to gauge suitability for your child. The clips are less than 15 minutes and explains why it is important to stay safe near the railway.

Please be aware of an app, popular with some young people, of which we have been aware this week. The app is called Sweet Snap and there is an upgrade called Sweet snap lite.

This is a dangerous app to download. If downloaded it has been reported to also download additional software to your phone siltently. There have been instances of student's photos being uploaded from the phone silently too. There are multiple adults accessing the chat and trying to talk to the chilldren in a sexual manner.

The relevant authroities are aware of this App but we are dvising that all parents/carers check their child's phone and remove this app if they have it.

Please can you speak to your child about online safety.

If you would like additional resources to support this, then click the link below.

https://www.thinkuknow.co.uk/parents/Support-tools/home-activity-worksheets/

If you have any concerns regarding any apps or online safety, then please inform the Police and school. 

Kind regards,

St Julie's Catholic School Safeguarding Team

The NSPCC have updated their handy guide to staying safe online. You can find a copy here.

Domestic abuse during national lockdown is a real concern, and the Merseyside Violence Reduction Partnership are circulating the following important advice:

For support:

In an emergency always, ring 999.   Using a silent 999 call followed by 55 (or tapping/coughing into the phone) will enable police to respond.

National Domestic Abuse 24 hour Support Helpline: 0808 2000 247

RESPECT National Helpline, perpetrators (9am to 5pm): 0808 802 4040

Support directories:

https://ehd.liverpool.gov.uk/kb5/liverpool/fsd/results.page?qt=domestic+abuse&term=&sorttype=relevance&sr=20

https://www.victimcaremerseyside.org/home/who-can-help.aspx

http://respect.uk.net/contact-us/

 

Or ring:

Liverpool Domestic Abuse Services                                                             0151 263 7474

Merseyside Domestic Violence Service                                                      0780 272 2703          

South Liverpool Domestic Abuse Services                                                 0151 494 2222

Ruby Project                                                                                                    0771 428 9180

Savera UK (honour based abuse & harmful practice specialist)             0800 107 0726

Worst Kept Secret Helpline (Merseyside)                                                  0800 028 3398

 

Support for children:

Young Persons Advisory Service (YPAS)                                                      0151 707 1025

NSPCC               

 

Support for men:

Men’s Advice Line (Freephone)                                                                     0808 801 0327          

 

18^th March is National Child Sexual Exploitation Awareness Day. Alongside Child Sexual Exploitation sits Child Criminal Exploitation and County Lines. 

We will be circulating information over the next month on all areas of child exploitation. County Lines is the name given to dedicated supply lines to traffic drugs around the country

County Lines is an issue in Liverpool, with many young people recruited.  Young middle class girls are the top choice for the drug runners as they are not likely to be stopped by the police or draw attention to themselves. 

An information sheet on County Lines can be found here, with an informative video here.

Sexting is sending an explicit image or video of yourself to somebody else. It can also be called ‘pic for pic’ or ‘nude selfies’. Once you send an image/video you no longer have control of it, it could be posted online or shared with others. Remember that even if you use a webcam or an app like Snapchat to share it, somebody could take a screenshot of it. Sexting can also leave you exposed to potential bullying and blackmail.

We understand that some conversations can be awkward but it’s important to chat to your child about the potential risks of sharing explicit images, the law and where they can get help. Perhaps start the conversation by relating it to something in the news. Ask them why they think people do it and if they have ever seen it happen in school. Emphasise that they should never feel pressure to share images of themselves and that they should never share images of others. Ensure that they know they can talk to you if anything ever goes wrong.

Whilst sexting can be seen by teenagers as harmless fun it is actually illegal to create or share an explicit image, even when the person doing so is a child themselves. It’s important to remember that whilst the age of consent is 16, the age in relation to explicit images is 18. You are breaking the law if you:

• take an explicit photo or video of yourself or a friend.
• share an explicit image or video of a child.
• possess, download or store an explicit image or video of a child.

If under-18s are found to be engaging in sexting, then whilst the matter will be investigated, police can choose to record that a crime has been committed but that taking formal action isn't in the public interest.
ChildLine have created ‘Zip-It’ which your child can use to help them if someone is trying to pressure them into sexting: https://www.childline.org.uk/info-advice/bullying-abuse-safety/online-mobile-safety/sexting/

Need help? How to report

Stay calm! If your child talks to you about an incident then you may be shocked but it is important to remain calm and listen to your child. Try to find out who the image has been sent to and who it has been shared with. Ask your child to delete any images from their phone and any social media accounts (if they have uploaded them to there). You can also do the following:

Report to any individual sites where possible and ask then to remove the image.
If you need help in getting a sexual image of your child removed from the internet, you can get in contact with Childline or the Internet Watch Foundation (IWF).
If your child is being threatened as a result of sharing a sexual image or someone online is asking your child to share an image then you should report it to CEOP: www.ceop.police.uk/safety-centre

Your child can use the Childline ‘Report Remove’ tool: https://www.childline.org.uk/info-advice/bullying-abuse-safety/online-mobile-safety/sexting/report-nude-image-online/

Further information

There’s lots more advice available about sexting here:

https://www.nspcc.org.uk/preventing-abuse/keeping-children-safe/sexting/
https://www.thinkuknow.co.uk/parents/articles/Has-your-child-shared-a-nude-selfie-subtitled/
https://www.childnet.com/parents-and-carers/hot-topics/sexting
https://parentinfo.org/article/when-teens-share-nudes

The tragic suicide of Caroline Flack has reminded us all of the need to continue to reach out to those

experiencing difficulties with their mental health and consider who around us, both young and old, needs support.

There is considerable guidance on each local area’s CAMHS website, including how to seek support if a young person is in crisis:

https://www.liverpoolcamhs.com/emergency-advice/

We would advise all parents to read the following link in relation to the TikTok App that has become popular with young people:

https://www.commonsensemedia.org/blog/parents-ultimate-guide-to-tiktok

In summary:

• TikTok is a free social media app that lets people watch, create, and share videos -- often to a soundtrack of the top hits in music -- right from their phone. However, it can also be used to make videos that could constitute 'cyber bullying' 
• When you sign up for TikTok, your account is public by default, meaning anyone can see your videos, send you direct messages, and use your location information.
• Because of TikTok's emphasis on popular music, many videos include swearing and sexual lyrics, so it may not be age-appropriate for kids to use on their own. It's also easy to find people wearing revealing clothing and dancing suggestively
• TikTok requires that users be at least 13 years old to use the app and that anyone under the age of 18 must have approval of a parent or guardian 

We recommend the app for age 16+ only, mainly due to the privacy issues and mature content

As parents and carers, you will be well aware of the stresses and pressures facing young people and sometimes it can be hard to know how best to support them. 

The Childline website has lots of valuable information and their Calm Zone provides a range of activities that aim to help children feel better when they're feeling anxious, scared or sad. 

Although children could be encouraged to visit the website themselves, these are good techniques for adults use with children. Ideas include: breathing exercises, a 'let it go' box and creating a 'sense drawer'.

Go to the Childline website here: https://www.childline.org.uk/toolbox/calm-zone/

Does your child attend an 'Out Of School Setting' such as community and youth centre, sports clubs or out of school tuition?

If so and in order to reassure yourself that this is a safe an appropriate environment, please be aware of this linked document:

https://consult.education.gov.uk/regulatory-framework-unit/out-of-school-settings-voluntary-safeguarding-code/supporting_documents/Safeguarding%20questions%20for%20parents%20and%20carersDraft%20guidance.pdf

The document gives guidance about questions you may want to ask of this provider in respect of things such as employment checks on staff, supervision arrangements, staff training, data protection and a range of others issues. It also identifies a number of 'red flags' that might give rise to concern about a provider and what you should do if you were to have concerns. 

Please also be aware of the following website: https://www.safeguardingresourcehub.co.uk/Resource-Hub?user_group=3

This is a free hub of national safeguarding resources to em,power children, young people and all adults supporting them. 

The Safeguarding Resource Hub is 

• A free online directory with links to hundreds of key national resources
• Quick and easy to use
• Free to all children, young people, adults, parents and carers, and professionals
• Targeted resources for each usergroup
• Empowers everyone to find the advice and guidance they might need

Find out more at www.safeguardingresourcehub.co.uk

Click here to read some really helpful advice for students about saying safe over Christmas.

The Mental Health Foundation have released this useful guidance offering advice about how to talk to your children about scary world news.

There has been much recent research into the detrimental impact on young people when either or both of their parents/carers is affected by any one of the three issues referred to by professionals as the ‘Toxic Trio’, namely:

• having a parent who is a victim of domestic abuse
• parental substance misuse
• parental mental ill-health

Where any two or all three of these factors are present, research demonstrates that young people are at a greatly heightened risk of coming to significant harm.

A report into 139 Serious Case Reviews (conducted when a child dies or suffers significant harm) carried out between 2009 and 2011 shows that in 95% of all cases, at least one of the ‘Toxic Trio’ was a contributory factor.

In 63% of all cases, two of the Toxic Trio were contributory factors.

All three issues were present in 24% of cases.

Please click here to for more information and to read about our response.

West Yorkshire Police and Leeds Safeguarding Children Partnership have launched a campaign warning young people to be wary of invites to free parties from older people who they know little about.

A tactic used by perpetrators of child sexual exploitation is to lure children to parties through social media and word of mouth, where they then ply them with drinks and drugs before pressuring them into sex. They may also bribe them into doing things they aren't comfortable with in return for a lift home, as the 'party' is often held in an area that the young person is unfamiliar with.

Advice to Young people

If you do accept an invitation to a party or gathering there are things that you need to do keep yourself safe:

• Make sure you know the location of where you're going and whose party it is.
• Read the road signs if you accept a lift.
• Tell a trusted adult where you are going and who you're going with.
• Tell someone what time you're expected back.
• Make sure you have credit on your phone.
• Make sure your mobile battery is fully charged.
• Take enough money with you to get you home

Read more: https://www.westyorkshire.police.uk/news-appeals/if-you-dont-know-dont-go-campaign-highlights-party-tactic-used-perpetrators-child

For use at home and in school, Swiggle is a child-friendly search engine developed by South West Grid for Learning and built on the Google Safe Search technology. It is free, ad free, has a reporting page for children and adults, active blocking of inappropriate search strings and even a Swigglebot to give advice.

For more information go to the link below and look at the menu (top right of page)

https://swiggle.org.uk/

Google Family Link has been around for some time, but has recently had a much-needed update. You can now limit screen time per app (instead of the whole device) as well as track activity, set daily limits, view device location and more.

See here for more information:

https://techcrunch.com/2019/09/18/googles-parental-control-software-family-link-gains-much-needed-features/

Guidance for children and young people, families and professionals facing unwanted or hurtful online messages

Social Media apps can be a great way for children and young people to talk to friends, but cyberbullying is a growing issue that many children and young people face.

There are a few simple steps children can take to protect yourself themselves.

Most social media platforms allow you to block any comments and report and block profiles that are sending you negative or unpleasant messages.

When you block someone, it means they are unable to see anything you post, and you can’t see their profile, comments or messages either.

You can do this in the “settings” section of whatever app you are using. If you’re not sure how to do this, ask a trusted adult to help you.

If you’re being added into group chats that you don’t want to be in, block the numbers which are adding you and exit all the groups.

It can be hard but try not to get involved in the chats. Take screenshots of any hurtful messages instead.

Make sure you screenshot everything said to you before blocking anyone as you might need this as proof, to evidence what’s happening.

If you feel unsafe, always tell someone. Make sure you take these concerns to an adult you trust and let them know what’s been going on.

If you’re being threatened with violence, either online or offline, you should contact the police.

The most important thing is to not suffer in silence.

Consider Ignore, Block, Report when dealing with unwanted or hurtful messages.

There are excellent resources that you should take a look at:

 

‘Own It’ App

 ‘The BBC is launching a new app to try and help the wellbeing of young people online. It's called Own It and it encourages young people to stop and think before they hit the send button.It monitors how they interact with their friends and family online and uses artificial intelligence to try and see how a child is feeling.’

The APP can be found here: https://www.bbc.com/ownit/take-control/own-it-app

 

“Being Bullied? Five things you need to do RIGHT NOW!”

https://www.bbc.com/ownit/curations/bullying-and-trolling

Internet Matters, step-by-step guides to set controls on popular social media apps

https://www.internetmatters.org/parental-controls/social-media/

The Safeguarding Resource Hub provides additional resources that can support children, young people, parents/carers and professionals:

https://www.safeguardingresourcehub.co.uk/

 

And don’t forget you can also contact Childline on 0800 1111

https://www.childline.org.uk/

 

We have recently received updated guidance from the Local Authority about Domestic Abuse, which sadly remains a real issue within our City. Some of the information in the guidance that may be helpful to raise awareness among parents is available here.

https://www.childline.org.uk/ - a free, private and confidential service where you can talk about anything. Whatever your worry, whenever you need help, we’re here for you online, on the phone, anytime.

https://www.rlss.org.uk/Pages/Category/water-safety-information

https://www.capt.org.uk/drowning

As the summer approaches, please remind you children of the dangers around water. Sadly each year more than 700 people drown in the UK and Ireland and many more have non-fatal experiences, sometimes suffering life-changing injuries. The Royal Life Saving Society UK (RLSS UK), work to educate people to enjoy water safely, to keep their families and friends safe and to know what to do in an emergency.

http://www.juniorcitizen.org.uk/kids/railsafety/

Please also remind your children of the dangers of playing around railways and perhaps use this resource to remind them of some dos and don'ts. 

Stem4 is a teenage mental health charity aimed at improving teenage mental health by stemming commonly occurring mental health issues at an early stage

Young people have just as much right to accessing facts about good mental health as they do good physical health, and yet there is a lack of accurate information. Embarrassment or social stigma surrounding mental health issues can so easily lead to confusion with what may be normal development, as opposed to the early development of a mental health issue.

By raising awareness, sharing information on how to recognise early warning signs and by providing effective strategies in how to deal with them, it can be possible to identify and stem these conditions early on. Find out more at  https://stem4.org.uk/

If you are considering booking your daughter into summer camps, activity days and child-care settings then you may wish to give consideration to the draft DfE guidance 'Safeguarding questions for parents and carers (DfE, 2018) so that you can ask the appropriate questions of the people they intend to leave their children with.

Key questions include:

 

• Have staff and volunteers undertaken DBS checks? How recent were the checks?
• Will any adults besides the instructor be present at the venue while my child is there? If so, will they be there on a regular basis?
• What training have staff had?
• May I have a copy of your child protection policy?
• Who is your designated safeguarding lead (DSL) and what training have they had? How recent was this training?
• My child has Special Educational Needs and / or a disability (SEND). What steps will you take to accommodate this?
• My child needs help with: using the toilet; changing; feeding; their medication, etc. How will these personal care needs be addressed?
• How are you securely storing the information you hold on my child? Who has access to it and are you giving it to anyone else?
• Is my child allowed to access the internet unsupervised?
• Do you have filtering and monitoring systems in place? What are they?
• What are your systems for First Aid, health and safety and fire evacuation? 

 

More information can be found here:

 

Although Glastonbury, perhaps the biggest music festival, has passed there will be many more festivals over the next couple of months including Boomtown, Camp Bestival, Leeds and other more local events. Your daughter may be attending one of these events this summer and the Festival Safe website offers lots of very good information about the fun side, but also about dangers such as alcohol and drugs, crime, what to do in an emergency and how to stay sexually safe.

https://www.festivalsafe.com/